Sadly, sometimes marriage and relationships don’t always work out quite as well as we hope for, either we grow distant and detached from our spouse, the sex life seems to fizzle out, or there is a general boredom and monotony to the relationship. Perhaps a new person has entered your life, a person for whom you have feelings for, and who seems to offer some excitement for a marriage gone stale. Regardless of your motivations, there are a number of ways in which to best conceal and avoid detection of your affair.

One of the most suspicious things is a sudden, dramatic and extreme change in habit, personality or routine. If you are suddenly taking a great deal of pride in your appearance, perhaps working out more, spending more on cosmetics and or on clothes, this is sure to draw a red flag of suspicion with your partner. If you suddenly have to work overtime, or have to go away on “business meetings” etc, this too will soon become suspicious and cause paranoia to sink in. Therefore, what you need is an alibi, or some reasonable justification for your absence. Rather than meeting your lover on a spontaneous basis, make sure to establish a clear routine, a routine that you can strongly justify on whatever basis and context, and make sure to inform your partner of it well in advance. Doing so will further limit their suspicion of you.

Whether your lover is single or married themselves, make sure that you do not visit each other at home this is a sure fire way to get caught, and is highly risky. Rather, make sure to go to a hotel or out of town, somewhere where neither of you will be caught and where people will not recognise you. For that same reason, make sure that you do not contact each other via phone, either by cell phone or home number, this to is very risky and likely to cause suspicion.

If you want to maintain the affair, keep silent about it, the more people you tell, then the greater the damage will be if the truth comes out, and the greater the risk of detection. Whether out of a sense of loyalty to your cheated partner, or outrage of what you are doing, friends may not be prepared to defend you and cover your tracks. If you must cheat, then make sure you are discreet and private at all times.